No Perfect Husbands

She was a college graduate and now teaching in elementary school. Her mother had always wanted her to be a teacher. She was always a compliant child, so now she's a teacher.

Over the years, she had dated many guys, but her mother was never happy with any of them. After meeting a new guy, her mother would say sooner or later, "Well, he's okay, but I know you can do better." Time after time this continued to happen, until she met a guy that she really loved. Her mother eventually said the same thing, "Well, he's okay, but I know you can do better." That statement failed to block a relationship this time. Now, they were engaged, and it was the day before the wedding. The mother said, "I hope you know what you're doing. It's not too late to call off this wedding." But, that didn't happen.

After being married for two years, there were disagreements and arguments. The wife shared all with her mother. Her mother's response was, "I tried to tell you, but you wouldn't listen." The couple went through cycles of love and anger. One episode escalated to the talk of divorce, and that's exactly what happened. Her mother responded after the divorce with those familiar words, "I tried to tell you, but you wouldn't listen."

After the divorce, the lady dated from time to time, but her mother was never happy with anyone she dated. The daughter became fearful of entering a serious relationship with any man. After all, her mother was right about the man she had married, so surely she's right about all of these men that she has dated.

Points to Consider

There are no perfect husbands, or wives for that matter. Real love accepts persons as they are. If we thought that we had found the perfect mate, time would sooner or later prove us wrong.

Only a woman can tell when she is really in love. This is that special person in her life, and she knows it. She doesn't want to live without him.

All marriages go through love-anger cycles. The question is how do we settle our differences? You may disagree on many things and still be in love.

Divorce can happen in any marriage. The relationship must grow, as the bond of love becomes stronger. Two people chose to enter the marriage. They must agree to stay in the marriage. Unrealistic expectations can set a marriage up for failure.

Parents should be concerned about who their children marry, but the final decision belongs to an adult child. When a person makes a commitment in marriage, it is important for parents to lovingly accept the spouse as a welcomed part of the family.

Credits: Dr.R.Trader