THE TOP 10 INSPIRATIONAL BUDDHA QUOTES

1. “All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.”

2. “All wrong-doing arises because of mind. If mind is transformed can wrong-doing remain?”

3. “Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”

4. “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”

5. “However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you If you do not act on upon them?”

6. “Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.”

7. “Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”

8. “In the sky, there is no distinction of east and west; people create distinctions out of their own minds and then believe them to be true.”

9. “If we could see the miracle of a single flower clearly, our whole life would change.”

10. “The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.”

About the Author: Myrko Thum(In the photo above)

Myrko Thum is the founder and author of "Personal Development that Transforms"

UKIACHWA NA MPENZI JIULIZE UNA KASORO GANI?

Kusema ukweli nitakuwa mchoyo wa shukrani kama sitachukua nafasi hii kumshukuru Mungu kwa mema ambayo amekuwa akinitendea katika kila siku ya maisha yangu. Hakika Mungu ni mwema na nitaendelea kumtukuza katika siku zote za maisha yangu.

Mpenzi msomaji wangu, hivi ushawahi kukaa chini na kujiuliza kwamba, kama yasingekuwepo mapenzi ulimwenguni binadamu wangeishi vipi? Kimsingi ni swali gumu na hakuna anayeweza kulitolea jibu la moja kwa moja. Ni sawa na wanaume wanavyojiuliza kwamba wasingekuwepo wanawake wangeishije.

Ninachotaka kukizungumzia leo ni kwamba, mapenzi yamekuwa yakiwasumbua walio wengi katika maisha yao hadi wengine kufikia hatua ya kujilaumu kwa nini wameingia katika ulingo huo. 

Wapo waliopoteza maisha kwa sababu ya mapenzi, wapo waliochanganyikiwa na wengine kuathirika tu kisaikolojia kwa sababu ya mapenzi. Pia wapo walioachishwa kazi kwa sababu ya mapenzi. Mimi nasema, mapenzi usipokuwa makini nayo ni kitu hatari sana kwenye maisha yako.

Lakini sasa licha ya mapenzi kuleta matatizo kwa binadamu, bado tunaambiwa utakuwa peke yako kwa muda fulani wa maisha yako lakini mwishowe utatakiwa kutafuta mwenza ambaye utaishi naye kama mume na mke.

Swali la kujiuliza ni kwamba, je kama kila unapoingia katika mapenzi unaumizwa na mtu ambaye umempenda na ungetamani siku moja muoane, kuna ulazima wa kuendelea kung’ang’ania penzi lake? 

Na kama utaendelea kuling’ang’ania penzi la mtu ambaye anakuumiza kila wakati bila kujali, itakuwa inaleta maana? Mimi sijui lakini naamini wewe msomaji unajua zaidi.

Kimsingi katika maisha ya sasa hasa kwa wale ambao bado hawajaolewa au kuoa, wanatakiwa kuwa tayari kuumizwa kwanza kabla ya kumpata yule mwenza mweye mapenzi ya dhati kwao. 

Mapenzi ya sasa yamejaa usanii wa hali ya juu kiasi kwamba ukifanya uchunguzi wa utabaini wengi walio katika uhusiano wa kawaida yaani ‘boyfriend & girlfriend’ wanapitisha wakati lakini uwezekano wa wao kuja kuoana ni mdogo.

Unaweza kuwa katika uhusiano na mtu akawa anakuonesha mapenzi ya kweli mpaka mwenyewe ukajiona mwenye bahati lakini kumbe mwenzako anajifanyisha tu.  

Sasa utajuaje kwamba huyo uliyenaye hana mapenzi ya dhati kwako? Hapo ndipo penye ugumu na ndiyo maana wakati mwingi tunakuwa na imani tu. Tunaamini kwamba, kwa sababu ya hiki ni kile anachonifanyia mpenzi wangu, naamini ananipenda.

Tutambue tu kwamba mapenzi ya kujifanyisha hayawezi kuchukua muda. Utadanganya leo, kesho lakini ipo siku mpenzi wako atabaini tu kwamba amedondoka katika penzi lisilo sahihi na hapo ndipo yaweza kuwa mwisho wa penzi hilo la bandia.

Ninachotaka kukushauri wewe msomaji wangu ni kwamba, inapotokea umeingia katika uhusiano wa kimapenzi na mtu kwa lengo la kutaka kuoana kisha yeye akaja kukuumiza kwa kukufanyia mambo ambayo siyo ya kibinadamu, chukulia kwamba ni safari ya kuelekea kumpata mwingine mwenye mapenzi ya dhati kwako. 

Najua utaumia sana kwani nayaelewa maumivu yake lakini sasa kutakuwa hakuna jinsi kwani kama yeye kaamua kukuacha huna nafasi ya kulirejesha penzi lake hivyo unatakiwa kukubaliana na hali hiyo.

Ila sasa baada ya kuumizwa, hutakiwi kukurupuka kutafuta mtu mwingine kwa lengo la kujaza nafasi hiyo. Hiyo ni mbaya sana kwani unaweza kujikuta tena unaingia katika penzi chungu kuliko hata lililopita. Kaa chini jiulize, mpaka kufikia mpenzi wako kukuacha ni wewe mwenye makosa? 

Kama ni wewe lazima ujute kwanza na kuwa tayari kubadilika. Lakini kama utabaini hukuwa na kosa lolote bali laazizi wako huyo kaamua tu kukuumiza kwa sababu zake mwenyewe anazozijua, hilo muachie Mungu, yeye ndiye atakulipa.

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Mmependezaaaa, Hayajitajeni majina yenu wenyewe!!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY OPRAH

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16-Year-Old Nigerian Bride Ordered To Refund N570,000 Dowry Over Marriage Fraud

A Nigerian court based in the capital Abuja has ordered a 16-year-old girl, Maryam Suleiman, and her parents to refund N570,000(about $4,000) to her husband, Mukailu Naibi, over a fraudulent marriage.

The judge in the Area Court sitting in Lugbe, Haruna Masanawa, ruled that Suleiman and her parents must refund the money to Naibi within 30 days. Masanawa also ordered that Naibi’s estranged wife, who had filed for divorce, must remain married to him pending the full refund of the amount.

“Based on the evidence before me, the court is convinced that the plaintiff’s parents are dubious people that no child should be proud of. They collected money from different suitors, all with the fraudulent intention of marrying their daughter out to them; all of which turned out to be fake promises.

“This honourable court hereby orders the plaintiff to pay the defendant the sum of N570,000 before divorce is granted to her,’’ Masanawa said.

Naibi of Keke village, Kaduna, whose wife allegedly starved him of sex for two years of their marriage, had demanded N1. 2 million as compensation from the wife’s parents before he would agree to his wife’s request for divorce.

Naibi, 37, while testifying in the case, said the amount covered the bride price he paid before marrying Suleiman.

He told the court that the amount also covered the cost of damage done to his house after Suleiman set it on fire before filing for divorce. Naibi tendered written documents with records of all expenses made on his estranged wife and her parents, in addition to presenting a witness who testified in his favour.

He told the court that his wife had refused to make love to him since they got married two years ago.

“Your worship, since we got married two years ago, my wife never allowed me to make love to her for once and all my attempts to do it always led to fighting.

“I married her out of love and I still love her, but with this development, I have no choice, but to ask the court to grant her divorce wish for the sake of peace,” Naibi said.

In her testimony, Suleiman said her husband had made love to her once but she was not impressed and so wanted divorce.

“I don’t love him; I don’t love anybody who bears his name and I hate anybody who loves him,” she told the court.

Naibi’s in-laws denied most of his claims. [source]

CONTINUED RAINS WORRY LUSAKA RESIDENTS

SOME residential areas in Lusaka are flooded following  Wednesday’s downpour and some residents fear that continued heavy rains could cause destruction to property.

A check by the Daily Mail yesterday revealed that most parts of the city are flooded.

However, there were no reports of houses collapsing or roofs being blown off but huge pools of water were visible in most of the areas.

Among the most affected are Kanyama, Misisi, Chawama, Kuku, Chibolya and Kalikiliki.

Residents are living in fear of cholera and other water-borne diseases due to floods. 

Chawaza Gondwe of Kanyama said his house was filled with water on Wednesday after the heavy downpour. 

Mr Gondwe, a father of six, was overwhelmed by the flooding.

“I have lived here for close to 30 years and there have always been floods but never before has my house been flooded like it happened on Wednesday,” Mr Gondwe said.

The prospect of rains at night is a nightmare as that would entail more suffering, he said.

Mr Gondwe said his pit-latrine was almost submerged.

He appealed to government to find a lasting solution to the problem of floods.

And Yande Chileshe of Misisi said even if government had earlier warned them to relocate to safer areas, she has no means to do so.

Ms Chileshe, a single mother of three who earns a living by selling goat meat at a night spot, said she has no money to rent a house in a more decent area.

“I was so scared yesterday when the rain water entered my house,” she said, pointing to the one-room structure she rents.

But Disaster Management and Mitigation Unit (DMMU) co-ordinator Patrick Kangwa has assured the nation that his office has a team in place to handle any impending disaster.

Mr Kangwa said in an interview that the DMMU has assembled a “crack squad” to deal with any emergency that may arise.

“We have a crack team in place to deal with any disaster that may arise, so there’s no need for people to live in fear,” he said.

Mr Kangwa said drainages are being repaired and that Lusaka City Council, the Zambia National Service and other government wings are doing their best to ensure that no disaster befalls the nation due to floods.

 By STEVEN MVULA 

Zambia Daily Mail

WOMEN CELEBRATIONS 2013

 

HAYA HAYAAAA WAMAMA,WADADA TWENDENI TUKABURUDIKE NA KUJIFUNZA.

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YETU HII SI YAKUKOSA!!!

ZAMBIA'S AFCON 2013 UPDATES.

 

 

 

Go and wallop them!!!

President Sata has urged the Chipolopolo to wallop all their opponents when

they begin their title defence on today.

"What you have to bear in mind is that the people of Zambia support you.

When you start on Monday(today), fight! Be brave and fight like the freedom

fighters who won independence. You have won the cup once, but we want you to

win it again; so don't worry about anything. Go and play and even if you

meet the hosts at any stage, go and wallop them," President Sata said to

massive cheers and applause from the players, dignitaries and FAZ

leadership.

President Sata was accompanied by First Lady Dr Christine Kaseba, Sports

Minister Chishimba Kambwili and other senior government officials and

diplomats.

He was welcomed at the Protea Hotel Nelspruit by FAZ president Kalusha

Bwalya and executive committee members of the Football Association of

Zambia, diplomats and representatives of the Premier of Mpumalanga Province.

His arrival brought the hotel to a standstill and caught the attention of

the international press which included Al Jazeera, BBC, Supersport, CCTV,

Associated Press and a cross section of African media. International media

personnel were however asked to leave the hotel meeting room by FAZ

spokesperson Erick Mwanza who told the audience in his introductory remarks

that President Sata's meeting with the players was "a closed and internal

Zambian affair." The international media was however given an opportunity to

interview the president who emphasized that Zambia was in South Africa to

win.

FAZ chief Kalusha commended President Sata for his support and encouragement

stressing that his unwavering commitment to the team and game was

outstanding.

"Your excellency, we are pleased to welcome you. We are encouraged by your

presence and your commitment and support to the team and FAZ. The whole team

will be greatly encouraged and motivated throughout the tournament," Kalusha

said.

Reigning and defending African champions Zambia open the defense of their

title with a 17:00hours kick against Ethiopia at Mbombela on Monday(today).

Thanks to: Arnold Ng'anzwe

MY FINGER'S CROSSED FOR CHIPOLOPOLO......

I wish all the best for Zambia's National Team(AFCON 2012) . 

The Chipolopolo please don't let us down,cant wait for tomorrow's match @ AFCON 2013!

HAYA WAPENDA KUIGA IGENI NA HII SASA!!!

LOVE & DINE ON VALENTINES' DAY

MARRIAGE WITHOUT INTIMACY...

They had been married for two years. She loved her husband but she felt like something was missing in the relationship. He thought everything was fine in their marriage. She didn't feel comfortable to tell him what she really thought. You could say that she didn't feel safe to be transparent. She couldn't trust him with the secrets of her heart.

Marriage is a heart-to-heart relationship. It is built on intimacy. Anything that hinders transparency is a barrier to intimacy in marriage. Couples who are transparent open their hearts to intimacy in the relationship. 

Intimacy comes through communicating without barriers. Both husband and wife must feel safe to be transparent. The more transparent they are with each other, the more vulnerable they become to one another. We can only be intimate when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable.

There are four levels of transparency in marriage. Real intimacy requires all four. The hearts of both husband and wife are open to each other. The door of their hearts is wide open.

Volitional Transparency. This means that you are willing to give yourself completely to your spouse. Fear of being hurt is usually the main obstacle. Without this volitional element, building trust and experiencing intimacy becomes impossible.

Mental Transparency. This means that you have no secrets from your mate. Secrets will build a wall of separation. Sharing your thoughts with your partner provides transparency leading to intimacy. Then, there is trust and a meeting of hearts.

Emotional Transparency. Feelings are shared freely. A husband wants to know what his wife is feeling in every situation. When she feels safe to share her deepest feelings, intimacy and trust are experienced. Criticism and judgmental statements hinder the atmosphere for emotional transparency. When your spouse knows that you will not pass judgment on feelings expressed, the safety is there to be open.

Spiritual Transparency. Let your spouse know your heart about spiritual matters. Worship together and pray together. Share your faith. Confess your doubts. Be open to God together. Confess your sins to each other and pray for one another. Realize that God's bond of love in your relationship is essential to fulfillment in marriage.

Intimacy in marriage is not an unexplained feeling nor an unknown mystery. Intimacy can only come through a transparent and vulnerable relationship. When both persons are willing to completely open their lives to each other, they will enter the area of intimacy in marriage.

Source: Dr.Richard Trader

MAJONZI,HUZUNI NA MASIKITIKO MAKUBWA KUONA WANAWAKE WAJAWAZITO WANAKUFA KILA KUKICHA WAKATI WA KUJIFUNGUA.....

Marehemu akiwa kwenye jeneza pamoja na kichanga chake....so sad

Yani hii habari imenisikitisha sana nakunifanya nitokwe na

machozi.Simfahamu huyu dada ila imeniuma kama mama,mwanamke mwenzetu

amefariki wakati anataka kuleta uhai duniani,Inauma sana.

Mungu tusaidie sisi wanawake ulimwenguni kote hasa Afrika hali

inatisha yani siku hizi ukiwa mjamzito ni mtihani,tumwombe sana Mungu

atusaidie katika hili.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY BEAUTIFUL MOMY....

Pichani ni mama yangu kipenzina na shemejie Mr.Kihulla 

Mie,Baba mdogo Ben na mama

Tunakuombea maisha marefu yenye baraka na kila aina ya mafanikio katika kila ufanyalo.

Umekua baraka sana kwenye maisha yangu mama,Sina cha kukulipa ila nakuombea salama.

Happy Birthday Sweet Mama.

R.I.P SAJUKI..

NAPENDA KUTUMIA FURSA HII KUTOA SALAAM ZA POLE KWA FAMILIA,MARAFIKI NA

WOTE WANAOHUSIKA NA MSIBA HUU.

NI VIGUMU KUKUBALIANA NA UKWELI HUU LAKINI ILI ANDIKO LITIMIE

INATUPASA KUSHUKURU KWA KILA JAMBO KWA MAANA KILA NAFSI ITAONJA MAUTI.

POLE SANA WASTARA UCHUNGU ULIONAO HAKUNA ASIEJUA KWA JINSI

ULIVYOHANGAIKA ILI MUMEO KIPENZI APONE ILA MUNGU AMEONA VEMA KUMTWAA

ILI AMPUMZISHE.NAKUOMBEA KWA MUNGU UPATE UJASIRI WA KUSTAHIMILI

MAUMIVU YA KUONDOKEWA NA MPENDWA WAKO.

POLE KWA TASNIA YA UIGIZAJI BONGO KWA KUONDOKEWA NA MFANYAKAZI

MWENZENU MANA NI JUZI TU MMEWAPOTEZA WENZENU WENGINE NA LEO

SAJUKI...MUNGU AWAPE FARAJA KATIKA WAKATI HUU WA MSIBA.

POLE KWA WATANZANIA HASA WAPENZI WA FILAMU ZA KIBONGO MIMI NIKIWA

MMOJA WAO.TUTAMMISS SANA SAJUKI...

BWANA ALITOA,BWANA AMETWAA,JINA LA BWANA LIHIMIDIWE.

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Mkipendana kwa dhati na kuwa bega kwa bega kwa kila mnachofanya nina

hakika kila mtakalopanga litafanikiwa kwa haraka na wepesi.

Shirikianeni kwenye kupanga malengo ili mtakapoanza kuyatimiza asiwepo

wa kulalamika.

Na katika kila mpangalo msiache kumshirikisha Mungu kwani yeye anajua

haja za mioyo yetu na anajua mahitaji yetu hata kabla hatujaomba.

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